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How "useful" is she when it comes to everyday tasks?
My dog started barking when we were eating. My mother then paid attention to the dog, gave it food etc. exactly what it wanted. The dog trained my mother. Even dogs are able to do this. If I knew that someone would do my chores every time I said that I'm "overwhelmed" right now, I would train that person to do it 100% of the time.
Screaming at her probably won't work, you know her better than I do, you know her attachment style, does she get anxious when you're not paying attention to her/texting her on time/listening to her? How does that manifest? Does she then try to get close to you and engage with you? Or does she distance herself from you as well?
If possible, withhold attention/affection/praise to make her do her chores.
In what kind of situation do you feel like you have the most control or the least? In a crisis situation? Or when everything is going alright? When does she defer judgment and control to you? Work towards bringing that kind of situation about.
Does she get jealous easily, and does that jealousy manifest in compliance?
Try praising a female friend for making the life of her boyfriend easy. See how she reacts.
If you do this right, you can make her do your chores as well.